EP 301 When Kids Aren’t Being Defiant: Understanding Low Capacity at Home

Jaci Finneman explains how not all resistance is defiance—sometimes kids simply don’t have the capacity to follow directions in the moment. Learn how to recognize patterns that signal low capacity and when behavior is truly intentional. You’ll hear practical ways to lead through these moments without getting pulled into power struggles:

• Pause before reacting
• Use fewer words and a matter-of-fact tone
• Offer help, a hug, or a chance to be heard—without removing responsibility
• Hold expectations while adjusting your approach Key takeaway:
Before reacting, ask: Is this defiance or low capacity?
Then steady your leadership, lower your words, and support your child through the task. That’s how you avoid unnecessary battles and build trust over time. Helpful Links: 
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